At the White Oak Law, our clients almost always ask “how long will my divorce take?” After all, an expedient divorce means less complications and less expenses. There’s no quick answer to this question however, and the duration of any individual divorce will always depend on individual factors. 

Ensuring that you and the ex are cooperating and on the same page is a great way to keep things moving. However, even in cases where both of you are working together and being prompt, there may be factors which further drag out your divorce. Today, we’re looking at different ways in which people accidentally and unintentionally lengthen their divorce proceedings. 

Taking the Wrong Advice from the Wrong People

During divorce, people are quick to rally together and offer support in the form of advice, gossip, and more. While it is important to have a strong network of support during your divorce proceedings, be very cautious about the advice that you get from friends, coworkers, etc. They don’t always have the full picture and few, if any, have a strong grasp on the complex CA family law code. As far as legal advice goes, stick to qualified legal professionals.

Letting Emotions Get in the Way of Logic and Facts

Divorce is understandably a difficult and emotional time. When emotions run high, anything can trigger an argument ranging from dividing assets, custody disagreements, and more. It’s much easier said than done, but try to keep your emotions in check and keep your eyes on the ball: a favorable resolution that works for you and promotes the well-being of your children. 

Getting the Kids Involved in Custody Issues Too Early

Here’s a trap many parents may run into unexpectedly. A parent may decide to share some of the divorce details or let them know about planned custody arrangements ahead of time, which can have unexpected consequences. This leaves one parent feeling like they have to catch up, and will likely make them more combative during custody battles as no one wants to have their parental rights infringed upon. Likewise, kids that don’t have the complete picture may start to weigh in and resent any outcomes that don’t align with their wishes. 

Parents should work together to formulate a logical approach that works for everyone, then present this to the children once the dust has settled.

Misinterpreting or Ignoring Legal Counsel

Remember that advice and counsel from your attorney is not a guarantee as to how things will play out in the family law courts. A reputable attorney will help ensure that you understand your circumstances and potential outcomes. That said, people who misinterpret legal counsel or opt to ignore the advice entirely can easily find themselves in longer and longer divorce proceedings. 

At the White Oak Law, we make your priorities our own, and will always go at length to provide you with the knowledge that you need to inform your legal decisions. We take the time to understand your specific circumstances and legal needs before our team goes to work on helping you protect your family. 

Call us at 925-271-0999 today to schedule a initial consultation with our experienced CA family law attorneys.