When someone inevitably broaches the topic of divorce, it can be surprising (but not uncommon) for the other person to flat out refuse or say no. In these cases, many people can be stumped. After all, what can you do when the other person simply shuts down the conversation?

It’s true, in CA you don’t need to get a “yes” from the spouse in order to get a divorce. However, having them on the same page as you can make a huge difference, especially when it comes to the more contentious parts of divorce such as custody disputes and division of assets. For today’s post, we’re discussing different approaches and strategies when the soon-to-be-ex says “nope” to divorce.

Give Your Spouse Time to Process the Information

Divorce is a shocking and emotional time. In many instances, people just need time to process the situation before they are willing to accept the reality. After all, no one wants to be married to someone who does not want to be with them. 

Consider giving your spouse some time to see if he/she eventually accepts and opens the path to communications/negotiations. 

Considering Couples Therapy

Couples therapy is a valuable resource that can help both you and your spouse truly figure out if divorce is really the right call. Furthermore, therapy can help uncover any issues and help you identify the root cause as to your spouse’s refusal for divorce.

Use a Mediator to Help You Both Strategize a Path Forward

In general, divorce is much simpler when both parties are willing to communicate and work together. Recruiting the assistance of a mediation can help you and the spouse find yourselves on neutral ground where you can both discuss what you want/don’t want out of a divorce. Mediation helps protect you and your spouse, and can be the stepping stone to having him/her accept the divorce.

Consult with a Divorce Attorney

Finally, whether your spouse agrees to a divorce or not, always always consult with you own divorce attorney. Regardless of the challenges ahead, an attorney can help guide you through all expected and unexpected pitfalls. He/she can also help negotiate with your spouse, and ensure that the outcome ends in an equitable situation for you and your loved ones. 

At the White Oak Law, we offer initial consultations! Give us a call at 925-271-0999 today and connect with a seasoned divorce attorney in California at your earliest convenience!